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The Cybelian Marriage

 

 

We'll examine aspects that can improve a marriage where sex between the husband and wife is satisfactory, and yet the level of respect required by the wife is lacking. So, if this situation should ever come up in your life, don't think of it as a crisis. Try to look on it as an opportunity to not only improve both of your lives, but as a way to strengthen your personal relationship as well.

 

 

CUCKOLDRY  
Cuckoldry is a must to keep husbands in line, particularly if legal and social circumstances prevent a Woman from taking multiple spouses.

The rules here are simple: the Wife is allowed and encouraged to pursue affairs, heterosexual and otherwise, outside of the marriage, while the husband must remain faithful exclusively to Her. The Wife should not keep these extramarital encounters from the husband.

Instead, She should disclose everything in painstaking detail. As humiliation is the key to its success cuckoldry involves the husband hearing, smelling and tasting the aftermath of his wife's experiences. Ultimately, for the husband to be denied any sexual release whilst witnessing his wife having full intercourse with another man will remain a permanent marker in his mind of his role in the relationship.

 

 

 

All husbands should have their finances arranged thus:  
All paychecks, bonuses, dividends, and what have you are deposited directly into the Wife's bank account, to which the husbands are denied access. All savings earned prior to the union are also transferred to the Wife's account or accounts. Husbands are allowed one credit card with a Ł100 spending limit, which is to be used only in case of emergency. Husbands are not issued ATM cards.

The Wife is responsible for paying all household bills, including the cost of food shopping and basic clothes shopping for Her husbands. She keeps Her checkbook under lock and key. Husbands are given a nominal allowance each week (Ł30, say) for spending money, lunch, etc., and for other items, such as books or CDs. Any pornography that demeans Women is strictly forbidden.

 

 

 

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HARNESSING POWER  
The strap-on dildo is a quintessential element of the Gynosupremacist marriage.

The dildo itself should be larger than his erect member-several inches longer and thicker, if possible. What is his malfunctioning nubber next to a larger apparatus that never softens? Anal intrusion with the strap-on is the device's obvious function.

Sex of this kind at first will humiliate and hurt the husband, but in time, he will come to enjoy the penetration. What began as punishment will become reward. Better to make the husband wear the strap-on. His member should be secured between his legs with a chastity belt to prevent erection and keep it out of the way. The use of the strap-on should be instinctive for the man, who, without having to worry about premature ejaculation or impotence, can work for hours pleasuring the Wife. He himself will only experience vicarious pleasure.

Furthermore, after being accustomed to a larger phallus, if he ever tries to have intercourse with his actual penis, he will feel even smaller than he actually is.

 

 

 

 

 

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CHASTITY REINFORCEMENT

The longer a man goes without orgasm, the greater lengths he will go to in order to achieve one.

In other words, a teased man will do whatever his Woman wishes.

Conversely, once a man climaxes, he is not thinking about sex any longer. The needs of his Woman are ignored. Thus, the orgasm must be harnessed - figuratively and literally.

Denial of orgasm should be used as punishment, fulfilment of orgasm as reward. There are many methods to doing this, some more extreme than others, but here are some inviolable ground rules:

The husband should never under any circumstances masturbate, unless instructed to do so by his Wife.

The husband should never be permitted to release unless the Wife has already done so.

The Wife should never perform oral sex on the husband. If the husband desires fellatio, he should be made to find a man to sate this base desire.

Sexual intercourse implies by its very nature equity - the putting together of complementary parts. Because the husband should never be made to feel equal to the Wife, intercourse should be eschewed for cunnilingus and strap-on sex.

Should the Wife nevertheless desire intercourse, the husband should never be permitted to orgasm. On those rare occasions when a husband is allowed sexual release, he should do so by one of three means:
 1) rubbing against a hard surface, such as the bed
 2) manual masturbation by his own hands
 3) through some act of homosexuality.

Sexual release should be used as a reward, but should also be a punishable offense. Semen should be disposed of in a way that humiliates the husband (i.e., oral consumption). The Wife should not touch the husband below the belt if at all possible. There are many methods to keeping the husband in line. The most extreme way to control the husband's orgasm is through the use of chastity control devices - chastity belts, piercings, and the like.

CYBELE endorses the use of chastity belts and the rationing of male orgasms. Limiting the husband to one release per week is a good way to start. Ideally, he should be kept confined for two-three weeks at a time, with longer periods to punish bad behavior.

 

 

 

 

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Getting the Most from Your Cybele Relationship 

 by A Satisfied Bride

That ruse about;the way to a man's heart has it all wrong. Any woman who's slaved to make her husband an elaborate meal knows that he's more likely to conk out on the couch than whisk you off to the bedroom afterwards. After you've been married for a while, you learn what should have always seemed obvious: the way to a man's heart is through his zipper, not his paunch!

Fact is, once you sexually arouse a man, he'll turn circus tricks for the privilege of a ride on his queen's throne. By exploiting this fact - and tempting him and teasing him with sexy suggestiveness, you can have him on his knees begging you to allow him to kiss your feet, wait on you, clean for you, satisfy you sexually, even humiliate himself for you, if need be.

The possibilities are endless. For men go absolutely ga-ga when confronted with a take-charge woman. Sexually aggressive women get what they want in life from their men, and that goes way beyond the bedroom. Making your man beg for your good graces, makes him even more aroused, more beholden to your charms, and (best of all) more willing to do your bidding.
 
Admonishments:
 
Once he'll "do anything to please you" here's some ideas that will keep hubby attentive, while keeping you blissfully entertained.

1. Have him pamper you. Make him...
- give you a foot/back/full body massage
- give you a pedicure/manicure,
- paint your finger/toe nails.
- bathe you/shave your legs.
- cook and serve you a nice dinner.

2. Make him hand-launder your panties and lingerie.

3. Make him polish your pumps with his tongue.

4. Make him do the housework: naked, but for his Hubby apron and his rubber gloves!

5. Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash

6. Make him earn his rewards; for example:
Allow him to kiss your bottom after he does the dishes. 1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of yours. Five orgasms for you equals one for him.

7. Spank him 5 times for each minute it takes him to make you climax.

8. Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until you give him permission. When you give the command he must cum within 5 seconds or he will be punished and/or not allowed to cum at all. (keep him that way for 30 minutes, an hour...or as long as you want)

9. Always make him lick you clean after sex.

10. When You go out, order him to be kneeling at the door for you when You arrive. Give him plenty of chores to do while you're gone.

 

 

 

 

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Punishments: 
If he's not performing to your satisfaction, or you just feel the need to assert yourself...
1. Spank him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle.)

2. Double up on his domestic chores, make them more difficult: make him use a toothbrush to clean the toilet.

3. Deny him orgasms for a long period of time (days, weeks?).

If at first you're apprehensive about taking the reins of your relationship, just relax and start small. Try this: after work tonight, tell hubby to pour you a glass of wine and give you a foot massage. Then let one of your stockinged feet worm it's way between his knees.

In just a few seconds, you're going to have a completely compliant man on your hands. Have fun with your power over him! Once you're comfortable calling the shots, you'll feel as if you'd been doing it for years. And, believe it or not, he's going to love it, too!

And one thing more - because you're going to have to make discipline hurt enough for him to want to avoid it in the future, he's going to want to avoid it while it's happening. Let's face it. Most men are simply bigger and physically stronger than most women. Should he just decide that he doesn't want to accept your discipline, he could easily end it if he isn't physically prevented from doing so. He must NOT be able to do this.

For discipline to work as it should, he must know with absolute certainty that he's not going to get out of it, and that it's going to hurt. Realistically, the only way to guarantee this is to put him in some sort of bondage for discipline.

This is precisely why many women have such a problem with discipline, they feel it's just too "kinky", or even sick.
From personal experience (yes - I've been through all of this), I know it's hard, especially at first. It goes against all your upbringing and education, not to mention your previous expectations of "togetherness" with this particular man.

But as I've said, if you have decided that your relationship is worth it, you're just going to have to learn a few new tricks. At first, try to keep focused on the desired results of discipline, not on the discipline process itself. Remember, you're now the authority figure and he's the naughty child.

Most women as mothers usually don't have any problems disciplining a naughty child to correct his behavior. You just have to get used to the idea that this particular naughty child may be bigger and older than you are. You can be as creative as you want in this area. After a year of plain old spankings, I got bored and decided to have some fun of my own. I began to gradually experiment with other forms of punishment particularly "suited" to the male anatomy.

I'm not going to go into detail, but the use of clamps, weights, and variably severe electric shock are now a part of my standard discipline repertoire in addition to plain old spankings. Do I feel that this is "sick?" I'll admit that at first, I felt a little guilty when I found out that I could actually enjoy providing the discipline that he now needed.

You just have to keep in mind that you're not going to be inflicting unbearable agony, just a carefully measured amount of moderately severe discomfort. But again, I stress that whatever your form of discipline, it must be real and he must know that you are serious about it.

You'll probably find that he (like kids and puppies) will occasionally test you to see if you're serious. Believe me, he's hoping that you are, and that you're not going to let him get away with anything. If you live in one of the larger cities, you may be able to contact one of the "professional" dominant women who advertise in various publications and personals ads. They are a good source for tips and strategies on the sex and discipline areas, and how to keep things running smoothly.

Larger cities also have clubs and associations where dominant women and their submissive "other-halves" go to meet and exchange ideas. Whether or not you ever get into this far enough to be interested in joining one is up to you. Remember though, what works for someone else may not work for you; it takes time to find your own style and the routine that best fits the needs of your particular situation.

If you do manage to get through the first few months, things will get easier for the both of you. You'll begin to become familiar with your routines, and if you're like most women, you'll start to realize that there is actually a lot more to like than not about your new role. Believe it or not, some women would give anything to be in your shoes. The old saying that "If life hands you a lemon, just make lemonade", was never more true than in this situation.

  

 
 
Just look at the real benefits to you:
 
1) He is going to be far more attentive to you, your needs, and your wants.

2) You can/will get much more help with the housework (yes, yes, yes). Just assign him the specific jobs or tasks you want him to take over, give him instructions and directions on how you want them done, and how often. Hold him strictly accountable for quality and timeliness.

3) Because you do now set the rules for sex, you get it how you want, when you want, and for as long as you want. Never let his own satisfaction come before you have been completely satisfied. Actually, when or how often he will be allowed anything for himself is going to be up to you and your policy.

4) All women have at least a small touch of the "bitch" inside them. This is the perfect opportunity to ;indulge, and yet have positive results.

5) You get to mold him just the way you always dreamed of doing (don't deny it) a chance that most other women will probably never have with their men.
 

 

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CYBELIAN  MARRIAGE

 

In a Cybelian Marriage, it is the woman who is the primary partner; the man's place is always secondary - from the outset and throughout the marriage. Hence it is suitable only for unions in which the female is dominant and the male submissive. Naturally, this involves an initial agreement between the two people; requiring each party to be fully cognizant of the other one's wishes, and vowing in the Cybelian Wedding vows to remain true to the promises made. Love plays as big a part in Cybelian marriages as it does in ordinary ones, but it is coupled with the woman's contempt of the male. She may feel love for him as a person, but contempt for him as a male. Although at  first sight this may seem paradoxical, it does actually work for both parties.

 

The actual tenor of a Cybelian Marriage can take several forms. The underlying principle is that the woman is in complete control of every aspect of the marriage. With that firmly understood, it is the wife's perogative to choose the aspects of Cybelianism she wishes to include in the marriage, and which ones to exclude. Some aspects are statutory; others a matter of personal choice. The first statutory aspect is that the man has absolutely no freedom - while at home he must always be naked and collared, the collar to be of the lockable variety. The second statutory aspect is that the man has no status other than that of a toilet for the woman's use. This last can be off-putting for some, but it is a prime requirement for a Cybelian marriage, in that it is the best way for the female to show her total contempt of the male, and thus maintain her position as primary partner and head of the household,

 

Other aspects of a Cybelian marriage which are a matter of choice include cuckoldry - wherein it is the wife's option to have sex with as many other men as she chooses, compliant physical punishments, humiliation, and extended restriction of freedom.

 

From the above, it is easy to see why it is very important for both husband and wife to know their own minds about what they want, before they actually enter into a Cybelian marriage, as it is something that cannot be entered into lightly. It is also important that they carry-on as they have started, otherwise the whole principle of the relationship is undermined. The advantages of a Cybelian marriage are that it leaves no room for argument, and therefore it lasts.

 

 

 

CYBELE WEDDINGS

For those not familiar with Cybelianism, the format of Cybelian Weddings will seem somewhat unusual. As Cybelian marriage is female-dominated, so is the format of actual Cybelian Weddings. Throughout the ceremony, it is the Bride who is the primary participant; the Groom secondary. The Bride may be dressed or naked, as she chooses. The Groom must be naked and collared, to display his humiliation and future position before all present. During the making of the Vows the Bride stands - as does the Best Man; the Groom kneels.

 

In a Cybelian Wedding, the celebrant is a Priestess - or, if one is not available - a Deacon who has been granted wedding faculties by the Cybele Order. The function of the Deacon is also to act as Best Man - literally the best man, in that after the ceremony he is the first to copulate with the Bride before any other male guests and last of all the Groom. This resonates with the Nasamonian custom whereby all the members of the tribe copulated with the Bride before the Groom, by way of sharing in the perceived guilt of defloration. The modern-day practice in normal weddings of the Bride kissing the Best Man, originates from this custom.

 

It should be mentioned that Cybelian marriages - just the same as marriages within other faiths and disciplines - have also to be registered with the State. A Cybelian wedding does not remove the participants from that obligation. In most countries, a civil ceremony will have to be performed in addition to the Cybelian ceremony, if property rights are to be protected. Most civil celebrants will allow a diluted form of the Cybelian vows in civil ceremonies, whereby the Groom pledges to obey the Bride in the marriage.

  

 

The Cybelian lifestyle does not suit everyone. It is in essence a Dom/sub lifestyle, wherein it is the woman who is dominant; the man submissive. Cybelian marriages entail the wife being the one in control, and the husband the one who obeys. The degree of marital dominance can vary greatly from one couple to another. It ranges from mild verbal control to more extensive control, either of which are embraced consensually by both wife and husband. There are many choices open to Cybelian couples when it comes to the lifestyle they wish to lead. Some lifestyle aspects may be considered by some to be unusual, to say the least.

 

 

The fundamentals of a Cybelian marriage are as follows:

(a)    the wife is the one who is in control,

(b)   (b) the wife has the option to cuckold the man, if she so desires.

 

  
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