SUBMISSIVE MALE 2
From Velvet:
Hello Ms Elise, my name is Madam Velvet and I have been a practicing Mistress in Europe for fifteen years under a different name. I have a Doctorate degree in Psychology and a have been a student of unusual sex practices for twenty-seven years. After studying human sexual behavior and in particular male sexual behavior for more than a decade, I decided to become a Professional Mistress so I could marry my Psychological studies with my ever-growing fascination with male submissive sexuality. By doing this, I combined my career with my hobby, much in the same way that you have done.
One of my theories has been that by removing the perversion from his fantasy and replacing it with sexual eroticism, I could deliver a pervert from his potentially harmful desires. I agree with you that most submissive desires within men are not perverted but stem from a natural and normal desire to love and be loved by the female gender. However, there are some off springs to these normal and healthy desires that do become perverted and thus potentially harmful. Blood sports and SCAT play would be two such perversions within a D&S relationship. Loving discipline and mild humiliation play are perfectly acceptable and even understandable but taken to extremes they become perverted and dangerous to the man that hungers after the fulfillment of these desires.
As an educated Mistress I have been able to experiment with different methods with a varying degree of success. What a wonderful profession being a Pro Mistress has been for me. I have been able to experiment on willing subjects while they pay me handsomely at the same time. I enjoy dominating men and some of my clients have become very special to me. I have grown to be a Female Supremacist and a Female Dominant as all these years of receiving such willful submission from so many men has fed my own hunger to dominate. Yet, I have been able to have fun and still concentrate on my work in this virgin field. It takes one to understand one and only a slightly perverted woman can truly understand a full blown perverted man. Only a woman who can stay grounded in reality while she engages in the bizarre can lead a man safely into the forbidden depths of his nature. I say with the utmost admiration and respect that I would assume that this is why you are so successful at what you do. Like me, you can stay grounded in reality while you pursue your own dominant desires as you delve into your client's sometimes bizarre fantasies. This allows us to allow them to let go for we become their security and their guide.
I could give you so many examples of my work and I will include my address and phone number at the end of this letter. Please feel free to contact me if you should ever want to discuss my theories and research. I have more questions than answers after all of these years but what I have learned has been absolutely fascinating. For now, I will give you one example about my theory on curing perversion.
One of my male clients had a very strong desire to become a woman's toilet slave. He wanted to engage in SCAT play with me. Now unlike in the States, this is a common offering from European Mistresses. Many European Mistresses will engage in SCAT play with a paying client. Health risks and consequences be damned. If a man will pay most European Doms will play. Now any educated Mistress knows this activity is not safe for her client but this desire was so strong within this man that if I turned him down, he would only go elsewhere to gain fulfillment. He was a perfect client for me to experiment with my theory.
The challenge was how does a woman take such a degrading and somewhat disgusting activity and make it exotic and pleasurable? How does a woman remove the perversion from SCAT play and replace it with something positive that will leave the man desiring the pleasurable instead of the harmful? How does a woman go about curing a man from this perversion?
After many years of working on such answers to such complicated questions from experimenting and analyzing other men, I was able to design a strategy for this particular client. After a lengthy and exhausting interview process, I was able to surmise what it was that he desired and what triggered his submission. Like you, I have become quite astute when it comes to analyzing submissive men. This is a skill that only comes from years and years of practice.
In his case, I would need the assistance of two other women. I enrolled the help of two women that work for me on a part time basis in my studio. Both are young and stunning. They are true Goddesses and men pay them handsomely for the right to bow down and worship them. Gretchen is a voluptuous red-head and Angela is a gorgeous blonde with a figure right out of mythology. For the record, I am a rather stunning and mature brunette, if I may be so vain. Sometimes we Doms have an overly exaggerated opinion on our looks and sex appeal due to having so many men worshiping us and constantly reminding us how gorgeous and how divine we are. But that is one of the perks that goes with our profession.
My client agreed to pay the outrageous fee it would take for three women to fulfill his fantasy and I scheduled his session. For his protection, Gretchen and I went on a 24 hour fast followed by a series of cleansing enemas and followed by a week long vegetarian diet. I went over with my girls the scenario I had prepared and we chose the appropriate outfits and needed equipment. One piece of equipment that I borrowed from a friend who is also a Pro Mistress was a Compulsory Flush Apparatus. This is a device that forces a man to swallow the contents within his mouth by forcing a bowl of water to be rapidly and powerfully sent down his throat sweeping all contents within the mouth with it. It happens so fast that it prevents gagging.
When the day arrived for this particular client's appointment, we were totally prepared. All three of us women wore the identical costume only in different colors and in different material for psychological reasons. The outfits consisted of a corset with garters, long opera gloves, a thong, fishnet stockings and high heel shoes. My outfit (corset, thong and gloves) was black leather, Gretchen's was red rubber and Angela's was white lace. My outfit represented power and dominance, Gretchen's represented fetish, and Angela's represented femininity and sexuality.
The goal was to get this client who had such an overpowering and strong desire to be used as a woman's toilet to choose worshipping a female over his fetish. The goal was to replace the mental pleasure his fetish provided him with the mental pleasure of worshipping a Goddess. The goal was to get him to choose Angela and what she would offer over Gretchen and what she offered.
I have found that men with the SCAT or human toilet desire usually have an ass fetish. They are extremely turned on by the female ass, its shape, appearance and softness. To a submissive man, the female ass also represents power to him. Not only does the submissive man crave to kiss and orally worship the feminine bottom but he also desires to be crushed by it. He desires to be held captive and helpless through the act of face sitting so that he is conquerored and at the mercy of his female captor. To some men face sitting and forced rimming is enough to satisfy this submissive desire. However, other men want more from this activity. They want to go from worshipping the female bottom to being a captive to the female bottom to being totally broken and humiliated by the female bottom. To these men, the next natural step after rimming the female ass and her hole is to willingly receive the brown shower that it administers. To some men, a brown shower over the genitals suffices but to a man with a strong ass fetish combined with a strong submissive nature, nothing short of orally receiving the feces will satisfy. Many men may have this fantasy but those that ignore the healthy dangers and engage in it are stepping over into the perverted. This client was such a pervert.
He arrived and I greeted him alone decked out in my leather outfit. I placed him in bondage and I proceeded to dominate him like he was accustomed to during our sessions. I also did plenty of teasing and denial play to get him on the edge and to fill him with passion and lust. I allowed him to worship my ass by demanding that he plant soft kisses all around my ass cheeks. During this activity, his human toilet desire came over him and he began to beg for me to use him as my toilet. After some additional teasing, I released him from his bonds and lead him to my water sports room, which is where I had my Queening stool and my open bottom toilet.
I fastened him face up on the floor and inserted his head beneath the Queening stool. I removed my thong and took my place on my throne and allowed him to tongue and worship my ass. He was so turned on and he had an incredible amount of energy and enthusiasm as he tongued my ass. I must say that he was excellent at it and it was very pleasurable. Once I felt he was ready, I moved him to under my special toilet. There I administered to him a brown shower directly into his mouth and he eagerly ingested it all. He had an erection the entire time.
When he was done, he was a little queasy which is a common effect after this activity. He cleaned up his face and he re-joined me out in my playroom, where Gretchen and Angela awaited. He could not believe his eyes at the sight of these two Goddesses. I allowed the girls to play with him and tease him but then it came time for my experiment.
Angela walked over to the bed and pulled her breasts out of her corset. She was absolutely stunning. Gretchen caressed his body and ordered him to kiss her beautifully shaped ass. He dove into Gretchen's cheeks and planted soft kisses with his usual enthusiasm. She had him do this for around ten minutes until I gave the word for him to stop. At my nod, Gretchen then made the proclamation that she had to have a bowel movement. I then had her turn his head toward Angela who was fondling herself as she lay seductively on the bed. I then gave him a choice. He could join Gretchen in the toilet room for another brown shower at the ass of this Goddess or he could join Angela for female body worship, including sucking on her breasts. I gave him one minute to decide.
I could tell he was torn but he surprised and pleased me by choosing Angela. We restrained him to the edge of the bed so that he was only a foot or so from Angela and she proceeded to tease him by playing with her body in a very erotic manner. Then she invited him to join her and she asked me to release him. I sent over Gretchen and she unhooked him but on cue, instead of allowing him to touch Angela, she dragged him into the toilet room forcefully. He was stunned and perplexed as Gretchen fastened him to the floor and forced his head beneath the open bottom toilet. My theory was confirmed when he begged to be released. He said that he didn't want another brown shower.
Now keep in mind that Gretchen is gorgeous with a perfectly round and inviting ass. I know had he not been so close to worshipping the Goddess of a woman Angela, he would have been totally aroused and excited about what Gretchen was doing to him. However, due to having already received a brown shower from me and due to his desire to worship the feminine Angela, he now was a bit repulsed at the thought of another brown shower. That could have been the end of the experiment right there but I wanted to cure him of this desire once and for all.
Therefore, Gretchen forced the CFA (Compulsory Flush Apparatus) tube in his throat and she took her seat upon the toilet. She administered a brown shower (and a large one at that) directly into his mouth. I stood near by and I observed him gagging which he did not do at all when I administered my brown shower to him. I gave Gretchen the signal and she used the CFA to force him to swallow so he would not gag. She did this each time he got a mouth full as he would not swallow on his own. I noticed that he had totally lost his erection.
When she was done, we released him and had him shower and clean himself up. Gretchen and Angela left us alone and I had a counseling session with him to record his thoughts about the session. I had a number of follow up sessions with him and he confessed that his desire to be a human toilet was still there but that he doubted if he would ever follow through with an actual SCAT session again. The fantasy still excites him but the thought of actually doing it now repulses him. I told him that it is Ok to have the fantasy but that it is a positive sign that he now realizes that some fantasies should stay fantasies only. The desire is not the problem but the desire acted upon is what can cause harm.
I hated to subject him to such a risky activity but it was for his own good. Had it not been for us compassionate and caring women who had taken as many precautions as we could, he would have continued to see other Pro Mistresses to engage in this risky activity and eventually he would have been burned. This session was extreme and cruel but if it ended his obsession and perversion, it will be the most beneficial D&S session of his life. Plus he will always have the intense memories to aid the fantasy while hopefully his desire has been partially replaced with a renewed desire to worship women. He learned that the beauty of the female and is more powerful than these strong and unusual urges. In the long run, he will be a better man for it.
Ms Elise, I would love to correspond with you and gain your insight into my research. I think we have quite a bit in common. I don't expect you to endorse or approve of my methods (not publicly anyway) but I would love to share notes with you, Educator to Educator and Mistress to Mistress.
From Anthony Z:
Hello Ms Sutton. Being a fellow (forgive the sexist male term) Psychologist, I am an admirer of your work. I appreciate your passion and your genuine love for your fellow man (again, forgive the sexist terminology that the English language forces upon us).
I have a story to share with you about a former female client of mine. I wish I had known of you when I was counseling her. I realize that I am violating the Doctor/patient trust by sharing her story with you but that is why I am using aliases to protect those involved. I have a dual purpose in sharing this story with you. One, I genuinely covert your opinion. Secondly, I am trying to locate this woman and I am hoping that you will publish this story on your excellent site with the hope that she may read it and contact you. If that should happen, I would greatly appreciate it if you would forward my e-mail address on to her.
It was 1996 when Miranda came to see me. Before I met this incredible woman, I did not believe in Female Supremacy or even Female Domination. If I had read your writings about the female power and how men cannot resist it, I would have scoffed. I have been married twice (I am currently single) and I have always enjoyed a healthy sex life. Being a somewhat expert in the field of human sexuality, I considered my sex life healthy and normal. I had no submissive desires toward women. I admired women and their beauty but it was admiration more than submission. All this began to change when Miranda came into my life.
Miranda came to see me because she felt she had a sexual dysfunction and she felt guilty about it. She did have a number of personal problems that I will not go in to, other than the experiences that shaped her sexuality. Miranda was a schoolteacher who was divorced when she came to see me. She was happily married to another schoolteacher but it all fell apart when her husband had an affair with one of his female students. Miranda figured that he had a number of inappropriate relations with teenage students but he was only caught once. This lead to their separation and ultimate divorce.
After the divorce, Miranda embarked on a very unusual sexual journey that surprisingly to her, unleashed a previously dormant sadistic and dominant sexuality. She started out by doing what her husband had done to her. Miranda had a number of inappropriate relations with teenage boys. According to her, it started out innocently when one of her students, who was seventeen, made a sexual advance toward her shortly after her divorce. She was vulnerable, she found the young man attractive and she yielded to the temptation. This unlocked a new world to her and over the next few years she embarked on a lifestyle where she could have been called a nymphomaniac and her primary lovers were young boys between the ages of 16 and 20.
I should point out that Miranda looked like the girl next door. She was sweet and you would never know from her personality or her outward appearance that she lived such a sexual lifestyle. Miranda is a brunette with brown eyes and winning smile. She also is extremely intelligent with a sweet personality. Being a woman in her late thirties and having multiple sexual relations with young men, this put Miranda in the dominant position for the first time in her life. Miranda was a virgin when she married her husband at the age of twenty-two and she was a submissive wife to her husband. Her hurt from his infidelity caused her to take the dominant role with all future relations.
In her sessions with me, Miranda began to detail how in the course of her active and somewhat reckless sex life, she began to experience unusual desires. Having sex with young men with her being on top and in the dominant position was not enough. She began to desire to punish her lovers. She recalled a relationship with a nineteen-year old boy and how during sex with him, she began to slap him in his face. She did not know where this desire came from but she remembers repeatedly slapping him and she became so aroused that she had the most intense and enjoyable climax of her life.
This newly discovered sexuality caused her to desire similar experiences with her lovers. She would always be on top during sexual intercourse and as she would ride her lovers to orgasm, she would begin to do things like slapping them in the face, or pinching and twisting their nipples, or pulling their chest hair, or other things to cause them pain during sex. As a result of her sadistic ways, she did not keep lovers around for very long. Miranda then began to date men more her own age and she discovered D&S through doing her own research. Miranda began to have sexual relations with submissive men, either openly submissive men or men who did not know about D&S but were of a submissive nature.
As she branched out into D&S with her sexual partners, she experimented with her sadistic nature. The one activity that she began to desire to perform on all of her lovers was ball busting. She would tie her lovers to her bed and she would tell them that if they wanted sex from her, they would have to submit to a session of ball busting. She would then proceed to beat their balls until they begged for mercy. During these sessions, she might kick them in their balls with her leather boots or whip their balls with a riding crop or slap their balls with a wooden ruler. It became so that Miranda needed to do this to her lovers in order to become aroused for the sex which would follow. Miranda admitted to hurting some of her lovers to the point that they left before any sex would take place. She did not mind, as she would masturbate after they left with one of her vibrators, aroused by the ball beating session that just occurred.
As I listened to her graphic details about these sessions, I became aroused and attracted to her. I have counseled many beautiful women over the years who confessed sexual secrets to me. I have always been able to view these counseling sessions with a professionalism and a code of ethics. This was the first time that I could not control my desires. A submissive nature was unleashed within me and I could not get Miranda out of my mind. I could not wait until our next session so I could see her again and hear more about her life. I even had some counseling sessions with her where I did not charge her. Her insurance would only pay for a set number of sessions so I agreed to continue counseling her for no charge. As she told her stories, a female power and her sexuality was unleashed and I fell captive to her power. I could not resist her and I wanted to be with her.
As a Psychologist, I knew the root of her problems and I was able to give her some helpful advice. I was able to diagnose how her hurt from her husband's infidelity sent her on this path and how she was really trying to strike back at him by having relations with young men and teenage boys. Likewise, she was striking back at her husband while she was slapping her lovers or beating their balls. But as I was telling her this, I oddly found myself aroused by her and her lifestyle. What I did not know then that I have come to understand from your writings, is that her hurt caused her to unleash her dormant dominant energy and nature and once unleashed, she needed to dominate men. As you say, the Genie was out of her bottle.
That is where her frustration came from. She now knew why she desired to dominate men but she still could not stop from doing it. She felt guilty because she thought she needed to be a submissive woman again in order to find true love. What she did not understand, nor did I at the time, was that she could enter into a loving relationship with a submissive man who enjoyed being dominated as much as she enjoyed dominating him. There are masochistic men out there that could endure and enjoy occasional ball busting sessions. I learned from you, Ms Sutton, that what she really needed was to find a partner that shared her sexuality. A man who could also connect with her on an intellectual level and be her life partner, as well as her masochist and submissive.
Unfortunately, I was unable to convey this to her as her counselor because I did not understand it myself when I was counseling her. I lost my moral authority with her when I made the mistake of asking her out on a date. My newly discovered submissive desires took control and I lost my judgment as a Psychologist. She agreed to go out with me and I ended up becoming one of her lovers, instead of that special someone that she really needed. I told her that I was a submissive man who found her attractive and after one of our dates, we ended back at her place for sex. Of course, she requested D&S foreplay complete with some ball busting. I eagerly agreed and found myself more aroused and sexually excited than I had ever been in my life.
I asked for the boot treatment and Miranda tied me to her bed and dressed in a stunning leather outfit, complete with thigh high boots with five inch spiked heels. She teased me to the edge of insanity and then she began to knee me in my balls, followed by some intense kicks from her boots. I went from arousal to agony and I lost my erection. The pain in my groin and stomach was unreal. However, when she finished and I saw the sexual excitement on her face (I knew from our counseling what was going through her mind), I became aroused again and we had great sex with her being on top, riding me and slapping me around until we both climaxed. It was intense, powerful and by far, the best sex of my life.
We saw each other as lovers for the next few weeks but she refused to see me as her counselor again. She became the dominant partner and she could not counsel with me being her submissive.
Unexpectedly after only two weeks of dating, she broke off the relationship with me and stopped returning my calls. I heard she took a teaching position out of state. That was five years ago and I think about her often. If she would happen to read this story, I want her to know that I love her. I was wrong to engage in a sexual relationship with her but I was weak and I yielded to her incredible power. If she happens to still be available, I would love to be her friend and start out a new with her as friends first, so we could see if we were intellectually and socially compatible. I have learned from you Ms Sutton, that any D&S should wait until after the foundation of a relationship is built.
If Miranda has already found that special someone, I wish her the best. I hope she has come to terms with her dominant nature. If not, I advise her to read Ms Sutton's site in detail and to seek out a counselor that is familiar with female domination.
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