SUBMISSIVE HUSBAND 8
From Maria C:
I want to thank you for your help and educating people about female domination. I am 21 years old and dominant.I live with my family and I am a college student. I have a brother who is 19. He is my personal servant and has been the past three years. My mother knows this but my father doesn't. There is no domination in my parents.
My brother does my work. I can use him what and whenever I want. He washes my feet, helps with my nail polishing, carries my bags, tidies my room,etc...I also use him as a pony at home. I like to ride him around the house when my father is not home. Like I mentioned, my father doesn't know this situation. My mother doesn't care about this. I left my boyfriend who was also my slave because my brother is a better slave to me.
When my brother doesn't obey me, I punish him. I use face slapping and whippings to punish him. I like to slap his face repeatily when he disobeys me or makes me angry. I have a temper and I have bloodied his lip before from constant face slapping. He never complains and he looks at me like he is enjoying being punished even more than I enjoy punishing him. I have a strap that I whip his butt with when he really makes me angry. He is not permitted any sexual contact with me, other than kissing my hands and my feet. I do like to torture his penis by stepping on it with my high heel shoes. If he has been bad slave, I make him place his penis on my desk chair and I grind my heel into it. I like to squish it beneath my shoes. My brother twitches from the pain but he never complains and he looks at me lovingly. He generally obeys me and he is a good slave to me.
Sometimes my girlfriends come home and we have parties. I use my brother as a servant at these parties. He serves us. We use him as a human furniture for fun. He also obeys me in front of his friends. It doesn't bother him. Before he goes out he gets permission from me. If he doesn't, I'd punish him. When I'm torturing or punishing him he is very quiet and just obeys me. He hasn't told it to my father. I don't know what would be my father's reaction. I can't tell for sure if my brother likes or dislikes being my slave. I think he likes as he gets hard when I punish him and boss him around, but he can't admit it.
My brother also has a hand fetish. He will do anything to kiss a girl's hand. That is how I enslaved him. He implores me to kiss my hand. He also implores to my girlfriends for this. I sometimes let him. Generally I offer my feet to kiss and he obeys. What do you think about this situation? Must I stop? I love having him for my slave as he is very obedient. What do you think about his fetish? Is it normal? If you write me, I'd be very happy. Forgive my broken English for I am Italian.
From Melody P:
Hi Elise, I want to thank you for the best FemDom site on the web. I can't tell you how appreciative I am for your intelligent approach to D&S. I have been active in the lifestyle since I was 16 years old. I started out as a submissive and naďve girl but I have blossomed into a dominant woman. I have met lots of great people associated in the D&S scene over these past 12 years. I have five different submissive men that serve me on a semi full time basis. None of them live in the same city as I do but they travel to serve me as often as they can.
My favorite submissive is actually my brother in-law. He has been married to my sister for close to six years now. My sister is not dominant at all but she is very sexual. She actually met her husband through the swinging scene. She was a swinger and that is where she met her husband. My sister and I are both attractive white women from the Midwest. My sister moved to Florida and got involved in the swinging scene. Her husband is a very athletic and muscular black man who is extremely well endowed.
When they visit me or when I travel south to visit them, I dominate her husband, as I am his Mistress. My sister is Ok with this because she knows that there is no sex involved. It is purely D&S only. I love to dominate this stud of a man. I always make him strip totally naked in my presence so I can see his chiseled body and enormous cock. I usually place a dog collar and leash on him and he must always be in a submissive and groveling position. I love to spank him over my lap with my bare hands and I love to fuck him with my strap-on. We go at it hot and heavy for hours as my sister is usually in another room reading, watching television or just relaxing. I have invited her to participate and to learn how to dominate her husband but she has no interest. She loves that I dominate him because she figures that this arrangement saves them lots of money since he does not have to pay a Pro Dom with me being his Mistress.
Her husband has a real need to be dominated by a woman and I meet this need. Since he is so big and so well endowed, most women have always expected him to be dominant with them when they were active in the Swingers scene. He never performed D&S on any of the women but they wanted him to be aggressive with them in bed. By submitting to me, I think it helps to bring balance to his sexuality. They are not active in the Swingers scene at this time but they have talked about returning to it in the future.
When I am dominating my brother in-law, I love to make him play with his cock and to masturbate for me. Since I am not permitted sex with him out of respect to my sister, the next best thing is to make him perform for me. I love it when he dances for me and I make him do humiliating and sexy things with his large cock for my entertainment and arousal. I am use to this as I do not allow any of my submissive men to have any kind of sexual relations with me. I just don't feel that would be right. To me, intimacy clouds the whole power dynamic and the whole Mistress/slave relationship. When I want sex, I usually do it with a woman. I have a few lesbian girlfriends that I am intimate with when I need that. I use to play college basketball and that is where I discovered my lesbian desires. My coach and some of my teammates were lesbians and I got turned on when I saw some of them together at parties. So I experimented with it and I found that I enjoy intimate sex with a woman better than intimate sex with a man. But the majority of my sexuality is practiced through the dominating of men. The mind fuck to me is better than an actual fuck.
That is pretty much it as far as I am concerned. Feel free to post this on your site.
From Dinah:
Hi, I have been reading your site for about a year now. I have read every word on there and I check back about once a month to read the new entries on your Q&A and your story sections. So imagine my surprise when I read last month's entry that was posted by a young man named Shane. I was surprised because I am Shane's mother.
I was quite embarrassed to see my sex life posted on the Internet for the world to see. I could have rung his neck for posting that on your site and I felt like breaking his neck for snooping around in my room and invading my privacy. However, after I got over the initial shock I realized that no one would ever know that I was the subject of Shane's story. He never mentioned me by name or revealed where we live and I am sending you this response under an alias. So I don't mind that his letter to you made it on your site. As always, your advice displayed your wisdom and expertise and it might serve to help others.
Before I tell you how I dealt with my son, I would like to tell you how I became involved in this lifestyle. Shane told about parts of my past like how I became pregnant with him at the age of 16 and dropped out of school. I did live off the government dole for a number of years and became pregnant with my second son by another man. I went and got my GED and went to college. I was able to get my degree, land a good paying job and provide a good life to my boys. I am proud that I have overcome my insecurities and life's adversities.
Most of the men I dated as a young woman were losers and the only good they ever did for me was to give me two beautiful sons. Because of my insecurities and low self-image, I was drawn to abusive men who were losers. However, from raising two boys, I learned to be forceful and dominant because they had no live-in father. I learned to do for myself and I became very independent. My father has always been there for me and has helped us out tremendously but he has a slight handicap that limits him, so I have had to learn to do most of the so-called men's work around our house until my sons were old enough to help.
From going to college and becoming independent, my self-image improved. It's funny but the better my self-image, the better quality of man I dated. I finally started to date men that I could trust around my boys and these boyfriends helped me out with my sons and with the so-called man's work like fixing cars and doing repairs around my house trailer. By the way, my house trailer was very nice and it was located in a rural area on an acre of land. We did not live in a crowded trailer park.
I have been known to be quite bossy and forceful with my sons and I guess that carried over to my boyfriends. One man in particular seemed to love my bossiness and he was the one who introduced me to D&S. It started out as just sexual playfulness but I blossomed into a lifestyle Domme. I dated this man for almost two years but tired of him. Every man I dated after him was a submissive man. I have learned how to spot a submissive man from casual conversation and I have found that most men know all about D&S and Female Domination. They may have never practiced the lifestyle but most men have submissive fantasies.
My collection of fetish wardrobe and toys has grown over the years. It started out very modestly but each boyfriend seems to enjoy different things and I love to experiment with my dominant nature so if they are buying, I will accept and use any new toys and wear new outfits. My now famous trunk is overflowing with stuff. The photo album and the videotapes are self-explanatory. I am an exhibitionist and since there are no D&S groups in our area, the homemade videos and pictures are the closest I can come to public scenes. I never dreamed that one of my sons would find them.
That brings me back to Shane. No wonder he has these submissive desires. I have always been extremely discreet with my lifestyle and I have never practiced it when the boys were in the house. But I have been very bossy and a hands-on mother. From reading your site about how a man's submissive nature is developed from his interactions with adult females, I kind of wondered if my forceful and aggressive nature affected my son's sexuality. Now I know.
Elise, I was not sure how to approach my son about what he did and how he feels about me. I probably should have written to you to get your advice but I figured you are very busy. So I decided to deal with it in my own way. Your advice to him was wonderful and I appreciate it. He is going to be getting his own place soon and I know he will always respect me and treat me with reverence. But there is no guarantee that he will be able to find a dominant woman in this rural area. Not one that practices D&S anyway. I am sure they are around but that doesn't mean that he will chance upon them.
I was flattered that my son had developed this attraction to me. I feel like over these years I have gotten to understand submissive men and their desires. I know how strong these desires can be within men. We live four hours from the nearest big city so my son is not going to be able to visit a Pro Domme. Plus I want him to watch his money at this time because when he does get his own place, he is going to need to buy lots of stuff. So taking all of this into consideration, I decided to be his Mistress. After all, a mother is basically a boy's Mistress anyway. So I figured that until my son indeed found a dominant woman of his own and since he is twenty-one, that I would dominate him and train him myself.
It started last week. I had yet to confront my son about his transgressions, so I thought that I should make his first D&S session one to remember. I have a fake tan. I always have a nice tan but I get my tan from a bottle. My youngest was staying the night with his granddad. I called Shane into my bedroom and he about fainted when he saw his gorgeous Mom sitting on the edge of her bed wearing only her sexy bra and panties. Since I knew about his sexual desires toward me, I decided to tease him some.
I asked him if he would apply my tanning lotion over my body for me because I can't reach all of my areas myself and my boyfriend was going to be away for the next week on business. Shane could hardly talk but he eagerly agreed. His hands were slightly shaking as he rubbed my body down with the lotion. I did not allow him to touch my breasts or my crotch but I did pull my panties back to expose my ass cheeks and had him rub the lotion on them. He did my whole body from neck to toes. As he was applying the lotion, I noticed the erection bulging from his sweat pants so I teased him. I asked him why he had an erection and if touching me was making him aroused? His face turned bright red and he stuttered terribly. The poor boy was so embarrassed.
That is when I really embarrassed him. I asked him if he found me sexy. All he could do was nod and grunt out a Yes. I then asked him if he ever heard of a woman named Elise Sutton. He swallowed hard and I thought this time he was going to faint because his face went from red to pale. I re-asked him the question and again he nodded an affirmative. I then asked him if he was the Shane that posted the story about his sexual and submissive feelings toward his mother on Elise's site? He hung his head in shame and again nodded. I placed my hand under his chin and made him look me in my eyes. I proceeded to tell him that I was ashamed of him and disappointed by what he did by snooping around in my room. I then told him that he needed to be punished for his transgression, just as Elise had suggested.
I had him strip down to his boxer shorts and I tied him face down on my bed. I could tell that he was very excited, while at the same time being embarrassed. What young man isn't almost overcome with expectation and excitement the first time he is about to be dominated by a woman? I use to spank Shane when he was a boy but I teased him how this was going to be quite different. I put on a show for him as I got into character and slipped into my most brazen and bitchy personality. I scolded him about what he did and how his punishment was that he was going to be my servant for the rest of his life. From here on out, I was not just his Mother but I was also his Mistress.
I proceeded to paddle him. Being it was his first time, I took it rather easy on him. I should have used my Spencer paddle (a paddle with holes) but I stayed to my more milder implements. I still made him squirm and beg for mercy and his butt was a nice rosy red when I was done. He promised to never invade another person's privacy and possessions again and he promised to be my servant.
I untied him and I took him in my arms and hugged him. I explained to him that nothing sexual could ever transpire between us because that would be immoral but I did tell him that I was flattered that he found his Mom so sexy and desirable. I then explained to him that I would be assigning him chores and tasks for him to do for me each week and that once a week, I would be disciplining him. I also told him that he could feel free to ask me any questions about women and female domination. I furthered explained to him that I wanted him to submit to a nice girl one day and that we both need to keep our eyes open to find that perfect match for him.
I hope I didn't step over the line by doing this but so far it has worked out beautifully. We have bonded in a deeper way and I can tell that my son loves and respects me. He even had a date the other night with a very out going girl. He brought her to the house and this girl seems to have potential. I guess time will tell but I know Shane will submit to my opinion and my judgment. Thanks again for your wonderful advice and you have my blessing to post this on your site.
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