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DOMMES and STRAPONS

  

  

From Karen R:

 

I came across your site through the "Real Women" web site. My husband is the one who found that site and showed it to me. He found it by accident a little over a year ago. Little did he know that it would change his life forever. As he read the info on the site he began to realize that the idea of being submissive was exciting. He brought the information to me to see if I would be interested in finding out more. At first I was skeptical about this. I always attributed dominant behavior with being unwomanly. However, as I did more research I realized that the idea has to be tailored to each individual relationship and that you take the parts that work for you and leave the rest. A few times I allowed us to slip back into old behaviors, but we are now truly making progress.

 

I have taken full control of our home, family, finances and sex. I have introduced him to anal sex. I don't let him perform it on me because I feel that it is a submissive act. I don't do the submitting, he does. I will allow him to lick my ass though. That is also submissive. He was a little nervous at first, but now he likes it so much that we have invested in a strap on that will penetrate both of us simultaneously.

 

I really feel that anal penetration was the key to his truly submitting. At first he was doing what they call topping from the bottom and I didn't like this. It made me feel that he wasn't really serious but was just playing with me. But now that I am doing the fucking, his will is being truly bent to mine. He not only does whatever I say but looks for ways to please me. In the bedroom I am "My Lady" or "My Queen". I have told him not to call me these things in public. He may use my name but the way he uses it better sound like he means "Your Majesty".

 

I do not spank or humiliate. I have chosen a softer approach. Failure to fulfill my wishes, be it in the bedroom or housework results in his not being allowed to touch me and I will not touch him.  This seems to be working just fine. He wants to be fucked so bad he won't do anything that might risk losing that lovely privilege.

 

I do not allow him to masturbate, Failure to comply will cost him the right to have an orgasm for as long as I deem it necessary. He has a gift allowance that he can use to buy gifts and surprises for me. He can make  no purchases for himself from this fund and any purchases not from this fund have to be approved by me. He takes care of the finances, however, this is done under my supervision. When he prepares the bills, they are brought to me for review and I sign the checks.

 

In the morning, he makes the children's lunches, gives them breakfast and makes my coffee. He also makes the beds, does all laundry and housework.  However, I am a benevolent ruler. I have hired a cleaning service once a month to do the heavy cleaning. He is required to maintain the house in between. This was necessary because I like a very clean house and he was just not able to keep up with it to my satisfaction  and work full time also. I did point out the fact to him that I had been doing that for 20 year. This, I told him, is only further proof that men are inferior.

 

Your site has proved very helpful and educational. I need this sort of resource to keep things from getting stale. Thanks so much your guidance.

 

 

 

From Jane M:

 

Dear Elise, Although I'm a mature dominant woman in her forties, I'm still fairly new to the concept of female domination. I used to be married to a fine gentleman for over 15 years until an accident took him away from me a few years ago. During our time together he was always eager to please and I found it easy to get my way with almost anything at all. I even controlled all of his finances. The dynamics of our relationship was such that there was no necessity for me to enforce discipline or to break his stubborn pride. He simply enjoyed my dominance and I enjoyed making all the decisions. I never started an another relationship until recently.

 

Right now, I am in a relationship with a sweet young man whom is only 25yrs old. Call it intuition but I could sense he was a submissive. He finds it hard to maintain eye contact with me and always loses whenever we have an argument. Which 25yr old man would spend their Saturdays and Sundays doing chores for their girlfriends let alone for a woman almost twice his age? I am confident of my charms and know that he is attracted to me but his devotion is certainly unusual for his age. I know he has no ulterior motives too because he is financially more well off than I will ever be in this life. Physically he is even attractive and I had not been with a man for so long I was pleasantly surprised to discover he was very well endowed with an enormous penis. Though I did not measure, I knew it had to be at least over 8 inches. However nothing is ever perfect and I found my boy to be still filled with some distasteful male urges and fantasies. I do not know specifically the sexual preferences of dominant women but besides being worshipped orally, I also enjoy traditional penetrative intercourse. I never performed oral sex mainly because my late husband never requested it of me and I myself felt no urge to perform fellatio.

 

My boy now has only shyly asked if I would do it for him. Out of curiosity and also my wish to reward him for being such a devoted man, I tried it. Honestly, I did not like it. Although he was only lying passively on his back and not doing anything, the act of sliding his penis in and out of my mouth just made me feel a little used and degraded if that were possible. I also did not relish the reality of having sperm pumped forcefully down my throat. The only consolation was the fact that I was giving him so much pleasure. Is something wrong with me? I do feel a little guilty since I expect and often ask for him to give me oral stimulation. I know he enjoys it because of his erection and I also love the attention his lips and tongue has lavished on me but I don't enjoy reciprocating his oral service. Hope this is not being selfish. He has not thrown any tantrum or tried to argue whenever I tell him that I do not feel like sucking his penis except a disappointed ''ok dear''. That just makes me feel more guilty since it looks like I'm receiving all of the time.

 

There is one thing that I've observed. It is that after going down on him, his attitude changes just a little. It's like he becomes more outspoken and assertive bordering on making demands. Of course I still get my way in the end after some argument but I wonder if it has anything to do with me giving oral sex?

 

Before writing to you, I consulted a good friend of mine and she suggested giving him anal penetration through a strap on dildo which was also a first for me. She only explained mysteriously that most men would lose the urge to have their penis sucked after being penetrated by the same woman. After pondering over it for ages, I spoke to him about this and met with a huge resistance. He was saying how it was unmanly, unnatural and that it made him a sissy and all that nonsense. In the end I persuaded him to try it and that we would stop if he really did not like it. Elise, when I tried it I felt such a power rush. It was even more exquisite than being serviced by him. He was lying there vulnerable and I was actually 'taking' him. I had an orgasm from this act alone even though there was little contact between the dildo and my clitoris. Later I did not have to ask him but knew he did not quite enjoy it. At least not as much as me. I knew that if I insisted he couldn't refuse me. However immediately since then I noticed that his attitude changed for the better. His assertiveness was gone; he was somehow more docile and took initiatives to accommodate my desires without being told. Another pleasant change was that he actually did stop asking for oral sex and stayed up to cuddle after sex long after I'm asleep. I'm so confused as to what this means? I mean he certainly did not get an orgasm or any specific sexual pleasure from my penetration right?

 

Is there a strong psychological impact that is affecting his mind? I really hope that there is no lasting physical or psychological damage to his well being. When I did asked him if he liked it, he said no and that I had promised not to do it again. I agreed reluctantly and slowly watched his attitude slide back to its original ugly form.

 

Elise I want so much to continue to penetrate him (due to its positive effect on his attitude), to have him orally service me and most of all tell me 'NO" in the face when he ask for oral favors. Can a dominant woman be too selfish?

 

He has hinted at marriage and I've only given him hints that I will consider his behavior and attitude. Therefore all these issues all very important to me.

 

 

From Audrey A:

 

Hello Elise.  I enjoy your site very much as it is very informative and entertaining.  I'd like to share with you how I introduced my husband into a life of servitude on our wedding night.

 

I'm 38, live in New York City, very petite, only 4'11" tall and I weigh all of ninety pounds.  However I possess a very dominant personality and am not someone to be taken lightly, especially by males.  I have always felt that as a woman I am inherently superior to men.  My husband (Duane) revealed to me his submissive side and longings while we were dating, i.e., he longed to serve me, have me whip him, etc.  I had never actually participated in these activities but had fantasized about them, and so I eagerly began to "play" along.  A funny thing happened - I really came to enjoy these "play" sessions and found that I wanted them to become more than just "play".  I mean, having a man serve me night and day according to my whims and commands, how could I pass this up?

 

When my husband proposed marriage, I accepted on the condition that from then on he would be my slave, not as a game, but for real.  I explained to him that I would assume control of all of our assets and finances, that he was to obey my every command unquestioningly, accept any punishment or torment gladly, and that he was to regard my rule in the household as absolute.  I further explained that he was to treat and regard me as he would a queen or Goddess, and that in essence he was forfeiting his rights to me.  I told him that I was dead serious about this, that there was to be no compromise, and if he didn't want to go through with it he should leave now.  He was nervous about it but also desperate.  He loved being my slave and he was crazy with lust - I'd already begun depriving him sexually.  In the end he agreed.

 

On our wedding night I revealed just how serious I was.  I had thought and planned for weeks about just what I would do - I was determined to show him that this was no game and that my dominant and sadistic nature was far beyond mere "play".  We went to our hotel suite and I had him strip naked and told him to kneel and grovel before me.  I had him tell me that I was his Goddess and that he was nothing but a slave.  After a while I tied him to the bed and went to take a relaxing bath.  When I was through I sat in a chair next to the bed and, using a vibrator, brought myself off time and again.  I knew it was torture for him to see me sitting there next to him, unclothed and pleasuring myself - he never made any bones about how much he loves my body.  I pulled out a riding crop and tapped his penis, teasing him that I couldn't imagine when it would ever be in my pussy again. Then I laid down some rules for the night.  Running the vibrator against his penis, I told him that I expected him to maintain an erection for the next four hours - or else!  He was to service me to my absolute satisfaction - or else!  He was also to remain absolutely silent - or else! 

 

I then mounted his face and ordered him to begin licking my pussy.  I had him lick me for the better part of an hour, always monitoring his erection and reminding him of the consequences should he lose it.  I knew his jaw was tired but I kept him at the task anyway, and scolded him to keep his tongue going with enthusiasm.  He kept servicing my pussy, except when I told him I needed variety and ordered him to lick my asshole.

 

After a while I climbed off to smoke a cigarette.  I had him keep his mouth open so that I had an ashtray.  I knew he hated this and wanted to pull his head away when I flicked the ash into his mouth, but he couldn't, and I can't begin to describe how powerful I felt and how titillating it was.  I snubbed the butt out on his body and dropped it into his mouth, and he let out quite a yelp when the red hot end touched his flesh.  I tauntingly reminded him that he was to be silent and told him that he had better not disturb our neighbors with any more noise.  With that I gagged him and flipped him over, tying him securely in place.  I proceeded to stripe his ass with my crop, not stopping until tears were streaming down his face.  When I finished, I noticed that he had lost his erection, so I went right back to work with my crop and didn't stop until the pillow was soaked with his tears.

 

The next three hours were heaven.  I had never before felt the workings of such an enthusiastic male tongue.  He was desperate to please me and avoid further punishment.  He even stayed quiet the next time I had a cigarette, with great effort on his part, and tremendous amusement on mine.  At the end of the four hours I strapped on a dildo.  We had never done this before and I teased him about how pleased I was to be able to marry a "virgin". I told him that if he was going to come that night this was the time because it would be 3 months before I gave him another chance.  I couldn't believe how much fun it was!  I raped his ass until he was sobbing, and then made him beg for more.  He didn't come however, which was too bad for him, as I kept my promise about the 3 months.

 

Elise, this was three years ago.  Since then I have grown more and more into the role of queen of the house.  I'm happy to say that I have a most obedient husband, who respects and reveres me as his Goddess.  I practice enforced chastity on him, allowing him to come no more than once a month. As for sex, his every effort and thought are directed towards my pleasure, with pleasing me becoming its own reward for him.  I put him down about his puny penis all the time, so much so that I think he'd be terrified to have intercourse with me and prove his inadequacy.  Instead, he begs to service and please me orally, a task at which he is quite proficient.

 

Discipline is strict and uncompromising and he waits on me hand and foot.  I never do housework and he does all the cooking.  When we go to dinner or the movies I will ask where he might like to go or what he might want to see.   Sometimes we go where he wants but not always, the final decision is mine alone and I always order for him at restaurants, which embarrasses him immensely.  I have total control over the finances, with Duane receiving a small allowance every week.  I open all the mail, including his, I decide what he watches on television, and his internet access is strictly limited and supervised.  I'm not a heavy smoker, but when I do smoke, he kneels before me with an ashtray.  Sometimes I use it, sometimes his mouth, and although I haven't snubbed out a butt on his body since our wedding night, he knows that I can do so at any time.  In short, I exercise complete dominion over his daily existence, molding him more and more to my desires, and his entire focus is on making my life easier and more pleasant.

 

And you know what?  He grows happier, more content, and more docile by the day!  While he doesn't enjoy all of the details, he loves being my slave and he wants to be the best slave he can be, as he adoringly relates to me all the time.  I have a docile, tame and obedient husband who never argues, never talks back, and worships me every second of his life.  He has centered his entire existence around pleasing and serving me, and nothing is more gratifying to him than the knowledge that he serves me well.  I'm always devising ways to make his household chores more degrading and humiliating (cuffing his hands and making him scrub the toilet with a small brush in his mouth for example) and he gladly suffers and endures, just to gain a nod and smile of approval, or a pat on the head.

 

I wish that more women could experience the joys and pleasures of female dominance as I do.  Life is great in my home.  The wife rules and the husband serves.  What could be better?

 

  

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