FEMME DOMMES 6
From Brooke A:
Elise, I could never begin to find the words to thank you for your web site. I have been a reader for the past two years and your philosophy has forever changed my life. Two years ago, I was a divorced woman who was afraid to face the world on my own after a failed marriage. I was unsure of myself and I had developed a resentment toward the male gender. That all changed one day when I happened upon your site.
I read your article "How To Unleash Your Female Power" and I became excited and motivated to make the necessary changes in my life. Your article was the inspiration I needed to join a gym, lose weight and to squeeze the flavor out of life. Within six months, I was a new woman. I was fit, I felt good about myself and I must say that I never felt sexier. I got a new hairstyle and I began to dress sexy, showing off my feminine features. Heads began to turn when I walked down the street or through a mall. Men began to ask me for my phone number and for the first time since I was a teenager, I was in demand.
I studied your site and I was on the lookout for that perfect submissive man. I understood that there was no such thing and that it was up to me to train the perfect submissive man but I was mindful of those certain qualities that made a man attractive to me. This time around I was not seeking a macho male who thought he was God's gift to women. This time around I was looking for a humble and sweet man, a man who was no match for my female power.
About a year ago, I met John. He was everything I was looking for in a man. He was handsome, kind and definitely submissive. The only problem was he was dating another woman at the time. We met by chance and I could sense what you call D&S energy between us. He became helpless in my presence and he was captivated by my beauty.
We became friends and spent some time together. Unfortunately, he did not want to end things with his girlfriend of over three years. He confessed to me that he would love to be my boyfriend but he did not have the heart to end things with her. I knew we were meant for each other and I knew that if I did not want him to get away, I had to act fast. What was going against me was the fact that he was getting sex from his girlfriend and that kept that bond between them. Other than sex, they had little in common. He confessed this to me or else I would have never come between them. There were plenty of fish in the sea and I was confident in my femininity. However, I knew he was special and I knew he was the one for me. Therefore, I decided to capture his loyalty and his heart before he made the mistake of settling for less than the best. Since she was giving him sex, I decided to give him what she could not. I decided to sexually dominate him.
Keep in mind that I had never done this live with a man. I had all of this head knowledge from reading your site as well as a few FemDom books. I was nervous and lacked self-confidence in this area but I remembered a line in your Q&A forum where you told a woman that her attitude was more important than her skill level.
I convinced John to have dinner with me. We were supposed to meet at a restaurant but I made up a last minute excuse about having all this food at my house so I invited him over. I was taking a chance here because at this point, he had never confessed to me about wanting to be dominated by a woman. I was taking a step of faith that he would respond to my dominance. I figured I had nothing to lose and if it did not work out, at least I would have given it my best effort.
I fixed us dinner and while we ate, I kept bringing the conversation around to feminism and the roles of the sexes in our society. I made comments about how I felt the world would be a better place if women were in charge. As I expected, he agreed to my philosophy and he confessed to me that the thought of women running everything appealed to him. This set the stage for phase two of my plan.
After dinner, we sat in my living room and continued our conversation. At this time, I asked John if he would like to be in a relationship with a woman who dominated him sexually, socially and domestically. He squirmed some but I could tell he was getting excited by my forward questions. He danced around my line of questioning some but eventually he admitted that he would enjoy such a relationship. I then asked him is he was aware of the book "Venus in Furs" or if he knew much about Female Domination? John about froze and he could hardly answer me. His face turned flush and looked as if I had just cast some sort of hypnotic spell over him. I had to repeat the question about three times before he answered me.
Finally, he told me that he was not familiar with 'Venus in Furs" but he knew about Female Domination. I asked him to describe to me what he knew about it. He told me that he had seen pictures in magazines and read stories about women wearing leather and whipping men. He classified that as Female Domination. I asked him if he often read magazines like that and he said No, but he was aware of them. I then asked him if the image of a woman wearing leather and whipping a man excited him? He hesitated and squirmed some more but he finally confessed that he use to fantasize about such things. I pressed him on this and asked him if was sure that he use to fantasize about such things or did he still fantasize about dominant women?
It was so cute to watch him squirm and being uncomfortable about my probing into his secret fantasies. I felt powerful and I could feel his excitement and submission growing. He was fighting it but he was losing. He eventually admitted to me that he occasionally (I loved it how he tried to spin it as if it was no big thing) fantasized about being sexually dominated by a woman. I knew at this point that I had him and it was now time to move in for the kill.
I excused myself and told John that I had to use the bathroom. I re-appeared in ten minutes wearing my new leather lingerie I had purchased over the Internet. I was wearing the following outfit. I had on a leather bra, a leather thong, a leather garter belt, sexy hose and high heel pumps. In my hand I was holding a short riding crop. John froze and was again speechless.
I just stood before him and I gave him a choice. He could join me in my bedroom or he could leave. But if he left, he was to never contact me again. And if he joined me in my bedroom, he had to promise to end his relationship with his girlfriend and agree to be my submissive boyfriend. I further explained to him that if he joined me in my bedroom and did not end things with his girlfriend, then I would contact her myself and tell her what transpired between us. He had his choice but he had to choose now.
It did not take John more than two minutes to decide. He kind of rolled out of his chair and dropped to his knees before me. He told me that he had never been more excited than he was at this moment and he knew that he could not live without me. I placed my hand under his chin and gazed deep into his eyes. I told him that once he walked through my bedroom door, there was no turning back. I gave him one last chance to change his mind. He didn't hesitate and reaffirmed his commitment to me. I made him beg me for the right to be my slave. John begged me to enslave him and I had never felt such a twinge in my crotch like I did the moment he was begging me.
I took him by his hand and led him to my bedroom. I took it easy on him that night as I was still an inexperienced Dominant woman. John did not know that and I could tell he was in seventh heaven. I think we both were. I had him strip for me and I pulled him over my lap and spanked his butt with my crop and my bare hands. The rest of the night was John worshipping my body and performing oral sex on me. While he was worshipping my body, I made him proclaim his devotion and commitment to me. He was so turned on but I did not allow him the privilege to have an orgasm. For the first time in my life, I focused all my attention on receiving pleasure instead of giving it and I must admit that it was the best sexual experience of my life.
John left excited, frustrated and I believe he achieved subspace. I was still a little worried that he would change his mind about his girlfriend (men are such promise breakers) but he was a good obedient submissive and he broke things off with her the next day. He was back at my house the next night and we re-played the previous night's events, complete with me being pleasured and him being denied.
I did not want this relationship to be totally based on sex so I told John that I decided that we would not have any further sexual contact for the next month. Instead, we would focus on building a friendship and a lasting relationship. I knew he was not happy about this but I had to see if he would stay true to me. He did and the next month consisted of us dating and getting to know each other better. I was always in charge and I made all the plans. John learned to check in with me before he did anything.
After the month was up, I did your Psychoanalysis on him and I ordered your other procedures. We began to do one per week and this sealed our D&S bond. By the time we got to procedure twenty-two, the marriage contract, I allowed him to propose to me and I made him sign that contract. He now lives with me and we are scheduled to be married next spring.
Elise, I have you to thank for all of this. We are extremely happy. I felt a little guilty about taking John away from his old girlfriend but I recently found out that she is engaged to another man, so it has worked out for all involved. Thanks again for your web site, your procedures and above all, that life changing article. I have unleashed my female power and I am prospering in every area of my life.
From Holly C:
Elise, thanks for the forum to share and to learn from other FemDom couples. My husband and I have been living a FemDom lifestyle for the past year. He introduced it to me and showed me your site. I did the psychoanalysis on him and afterwards I knew that this lifestyle was for us.
I am not nor have I ever been a kinky woman. I enjoy reading the different things women do to their husbands but I cannot see myself participating in the kinkier FemDom activities. Our FemDom lifestyle revolves around the following activities. Discipline for him, body worship for me, orgasm denial for him, domestication for him. I dominate my husband once a week on average and all of our sessions are similar. Thus far, I feel no need to change things because all of our sessions are exciting. We have found what works best for us and the power exchange is there. A once a week session is what my husband needs to keep him in submission to me throughout the rest of the week. It works and it has made us both the happiest we have been since we've been married.
One important thing that I have discovered is that our FemDom play needs to occur when I am in the mood. It is not so important whether he is in the mood or not because I find that I can get him in the mood rather quickly. I have to be in the mood for a successful session because I cannot fake it or pretend. I need to feel the need to dominate him and I have learned to act on my desire, no matter what he is doing. This makes for the most powerful sessions and I believe that is why I have been so successful with him.
My husband may be out in the garage working or out in the yard or watching television or doing work on the computer but it does not matter to me. When I am overcome with the desire to dominate him, I do it. I don't care what his frame of mind is because I can refocus his mind in a short time. What I usually do when I get in the mood is I dress up in a sexy outfit. Since I have assumed the dominant role, I find myself feeling sexier and more sexual. I buy sexy underwear and outfits, some fetish, some feminine but most are provocative.
It is interesting how the desire to dominate my husband comes over me. I may be getting dressed or pampering myself with a bubble bath or applying body lotion and all of a sudden, I look at myself in the mirror and I get aroused and I get the urge to dominate my husband. Other times the desire comes over me out of the blue. I may be interacting with my husband about the mundane things of life (paying bills, talking about our jobs, discussing the house) and all of a sudden I will feel the urge to dominate him. This does not happen every day, but it seems to happen at least once a week. So whatever I am doing and whatever he is doing, when this urge comes upon me, I act upon it.
When the mood strikes, I dress in a sexy outfit and I either call for my husband or if he is in the house, I will walk into the room he is in, dressed sexy and carrying one of my whips. I love seeing his reaction when he catches that first glimpse of me. I need not say a word and he stops what he is doing and awaits my command. I usually point to the floor and he knows he is to kneel and kiss my feet, shoes or boots (depending if I am wearing any). I will then order him to follow me (still on his knees) into our bedroom.
I always start out by allowing him to plant passionate kisses all over my body. He starts at my feet and works up my body. It is during this phase of body worship that whatever was on his mind will vanish and he becomes lost in my world. He becomes erect and I know that I have him in the palms of my hands. After he worships me with kisses, I will then discipline him. I might order him across my lap for a spanking or I might tie him to the bed for a whipping. It depends on my mood and this is the only part that varies from session to session.
I now have a nice collection of whips, floggers, crops and paddles. I buy a new toy about once a month. I will discipline my husband and I softly scold him about what it is I am pleased and displeased about his behavior and servitude. I get into the role of Dominatrix and Punisher. I love to get his behind nice and red and warm. I love feeling the heat coming from his butt after I have spanked or whipped it. I find touching his warm ass with my hands to be a real turn on.
After I've disciplined my husband, I then have him perform more body worship on me. This is my favorite FemDom activity. After my husband has been spanked or punished, he gets in a real submissive mode and his approach to worshipping my body becomes almost a spiritual experience. I guess he enters into what people refer to as sub space. I like your description of calling it the submissive zone because it is like he is in a different zone after I punish him. He becomes a like a little boy, soft, sweet and reverent toward me.
I love it when he is like this and he begins to worship my body and I become enthralled in pleasure. I have learned to relax and receive pleasure. I get goose bumps as he kisses and orally worships my body. I allow him to perform breast worship, as he must suck my breasts for as long as I say. I love having my breasts sucked and nibbled on and I have been known to make him perform breast worship for over an hour at a time. I call it tit worship, as that sounds sexier.
After he performs tit worship, I then have him service my ass. My favorite position is for me to lay on my back and to bring my legs up in the air so he can access my hole with his tongue. He must plant sweet kisses on my firm ass cheeks and then he must rim my hole for as long as I say. I make him clean it first but then he will give me a rim job, complete with inserting his tongue as deep into me as he can. I like for him to fuck me with his tongue by plunging it in and out of my ass. This sends shivers up and down my body.
Between the tit worship and the ass worship, I am now ready to have my pussy worshipped. I will lay back and he must crawl between my legs. I have taught him exactly how I like it but each time might be different, depending on my mood and how my body is reacting. I love it when he sucks my clit and I may have him suck it for over an hour. Then he will lick my clit and tongue my pussy, also fucking my hole with this tongue. I have orgasm after orgasm.
After he finishes orally servicing my pussy, I will have him get a dildo and then he has to fuck me with it, while he continues to lick and suck my clit. I can take a very thick dildo and my favorite one is ten inches long and twice as thick as any penis I have ever seen. I think using such a big and thick dildo humiliates my husband because he knows his penis could never fill me like this. I have great orgasms while he fucks me with my big toys. The entire body worship scene might last between two and three hours. My husband use to complain about his neck hurting or his wrist hurting from using my toy for so long, but not any more. He has developed the endurance I desire from him.
Once I am totally satisfied, I ask him to join me and to cuddle with me. We are usually exhausted. His penis is rock hard and dripping cum but I deny him most of the time. If I am in an extra generous mood, I might allow him to hump my leg or masturbate for me but most of the time I keep denied and here is why. I learned that he stays in his submissive zone for close to a week if I deny him. For the next week, he is so easily bossed around. He is so agreeable with me and I can get him aroused and eager to serve me at the drop of a hat. When I give him an orgasm, he falls off to sleep and the next day he is more self-centered and difficult. I know you preach the power of denying your husband, Elise, and I totally agree.
What I have just described is pretty much our FemDom sessions. They vary slightly but each session is basically the same. I enjoy such sexual fulfillment and my husband drifts off into submissive land. The rest of the week, I assign him chores and boss him around and he is usually obedient and willing. It works for us.
Perhaps one day I will need to try strap-on play or water sports or experiment with my sadistic side by doing C/B torture but for this first year, male discipline and female body worship seems to be all we need to enjoy a wonderful female run marriage. Thank you for your site and for providing us this forum to share.
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