DOMMES  HOME                                                                                                    back to main site:  FEMDOM

femme dommes
femme dommes - femdom

Visit the best femdom website ever made:  Devine Bitches

  

  

FEMME DOMMES - SPANKING

  

  

  

Spanking

  

The topic of spanking your male brings mixed reactions. The firsts of which are, "He'll never stand for that" and "I could never do that". The answers are, "Yes, he probably will" and "Yes, you probably can". First, let me make clear that this is not done as a harmful or perverted practice. 

  

  

Just as it is isn't when you spank a child. You are dealing with an immature male and the goal for him is to become a Submissive. You, on the other hand are the Dominate. When you look in the mirror each morning and each evening tell yourself, "I am the Dominate". Keep telling yourself that and you will become it. For the purposes of this program 90% of spanking is physiological. 

  

The Spanking is a distinct and precise physical demonstration of your respective roles. The male as a Submissive is bent over, humbling himself and presenting his bare ass before you, the Dominate. You as the Dominant, administer a physical reminder to demonstrate your superiority over your submissive and to reinforce that relationship. 

  

When you decide to incorporate spanking into your training program vary the elements. Over the knee, down on all fours, holding the seat of a kitchen chair, over the coffee table. Look around the house, the possibilities are endless. But, never the same twice in a row. Keep him guessing so he'll never know what to expect. I've had a number of women tell me that after awhile they discovered the male had overcome his self-consciousness and was how taking pleasure from spanking. 

  

My advice here would be, First don't let on that you are aware that this has now become gratification. You have two options. You can switch from, say bare-ass, over the knee (which seems to be the male's favorite) to restrained over a coffee table, paddle or strap and increase the intensity to a degree where it is no longer pleasurable. 

  

Actually, If you discover your male is now receiving gratification from spanking your in a much stronger position. You now hold the key to yet more source of his pleasure. Who else can he obtain this from? For males who crave spanking it is an extremely strong desire for which there is no substitute. 

  

It is much easier to control the male by rationing out pleasure than by punitive means. Ration out this one very sparingly, no more than once per month, least it lose its effectiveness. For instance, the first Saturday of every month will now be known as Spanking Day. At 9:00AM he is to present himself in the Living Room and assume whatever position you have chosen and await his spanking. 

  

At this time you will review his progress and behavior for the prior month. Also, discuss chores or improvements you'd like to see for the up coming month. Make sure everything is clear and he fully understands what's expected. Now it's up to you as to what type of spanking he will receive. A Sensual, Bare Hand, or Paddle gratification Spanking or A Punitive, Belt, Crop or Strap Spanking. Either way you still have a tool to keep him submissive.

  

The 1st Spanking: 

  

Spanking is a much less subtle form of control than panty training. Obviously you can't give your male a spanking without him knowing. Never the less spanking is a well-accepted form of control. Most males, whether or not they will admit it, fantasize about being put over a women's knee and spanked bare ass. 

  

This may be a remnant from the days when, in early puberty, his mother pulled down his pants and put him over her knee. As she held his hand behind his back and slapped his bare ass the young male would often get an erection. This made mother angrier, intensifying the spanking that in turn, intensified the erection. You can quiz your male and judge for yourself if he is a candidate for spanking. The next time he disobeys say,

  

"You"re going to get a good spanking". From his reaction you should be able to determine if this excites him or makes him cower. Now it will be up to you to decide if a spanking will be for punishment or for sexual gratification.

  

Either way you will have one more option to control him with. If your male has been wearing his panties for a month it's a safe bet that you can give him an initial spanking unannounced and get an honest reaction.

  

Where as getting your male into panties is probably the one key factor in turning him submissive, which can be done subtlety. The 1st Spanking on the other hand must be done very overtly and with a great deal of assertiveness. A little planning a head of time must be done. You have to present an image that will remain etched in his mind long after the stings from your smacks have faded from his butt. 

  

This will take him back in time to when he was a naughty little boy and needed to be corrected. Not that much has changed. Now he's a big naughty boy and needs to be corrected. You should dress appropriately for the occasion. Ware a dress and High Heels. Remember a spanking is 90% mental. 

  

The 1st Spanking has to be done suddenly and without warning. Plan on what day and at what time to deliver it. Will it be over the knee or over the coffee table? Will it be with bear hand, fly swatter or paddle? I would recommend the fly swatter. If it's going to be on a Sunday make sure you give him great gratification the night before. 

  

After his 1st Spanking he'll be thinking, "Do I complain about this and take a chance on losing that?" He won't complain. Remember, What is the males' greatest driving force? Practice what you"re going to say and go through a dress rehearsal when he's not home. The whole thing will take less than 30 seconds so make it good. When time arrives you want to present yourself in full view, pause and pose for a second or two so that this image will register. 

  

"All right Donald, I've asked you three times to take out the trash. Now bend over the table, Right Now". Give him 3 or 4 Good Smacks. "Now, will you please do as I ask"? There, it's all over in about 20 seconds. You want it to be Unannounced, Unexpected, and Quick, Deliberate, Firm and Over all before he ever has a chance to think about it. Believe me, if you spring it on his out of the blue he'll bend over the table when you tell him to.

  

When you have accomplished this you have arrived at the doorstep of success. Your not there yet, but your getting close. This is a major milestone. You have just physically and visibly exhibited your assertive dominate position for the first time. The male, on the other hand, has just relinquished control and demonstrated his willingness to obey your commands openly for the first time. This evening when you look in the mirror and say, "I am the Dominant". The image will answer, "Yes. You are"

  

Now you'll be able to judge by his reaction if spanking is something you want to consider. If he looks a little sheepish or dumbfounded, you have found another tool to be used when needed. They make Spanking Benches, leather wrist and ankle and wrist TO ankle restraints for those who have taken spanking to a much higher level. 

  

That deals more with Bondage and that's not the purpose of this program. But they do sell a nice variety of paddles and swatters if you decide that spanking is something you want or need to pursue. On the Internet you can check out and order things discreetly from home.

  

Now to the women who say "I could never do that". I empathize, as I was one who said the same thing. I wouldn't attempt it in the first week. Getting the panties on him is the most important thing. Wait until he has been in panties on some regular basis for a couple weeks. Read over the section 1st Spanking. This is the true story of my personal experience and I can tell you that I was a little nervous myself. But, you"re the only one who knows you"re nervous. 

  

The male doesn't know you"re unsure. The 1st Spanking takes less than 30 seconds but the effect will last throughout your relationship. I was quiet surprised at how quickly Donald got over the table. Keep in mind most males have either been in the Army, on a sports team or in some other activity where the Sergeant, 

  

Coach or authority figure gives an order and he does it without hesitation. That"s why your dress and presentation are so important in this lesson. Also, your Order must be Loud and Firm..."Get over that table, NOW". If you have him in panties he will do it.

  

PS: last word I'm spending a little an extra time here on the topic spanking, as this seems to be the one area I get the most questions on. First of all, it is a private personal choice to include it in your own Domestic Discipline program. 

  

However, it is an extremely powerful tool for keeping you in the driver's seat, especially if your male has or develops a fantasy for this form of gratification. Anonymously conducted survey's indicate that an overwhelming 83% of heterosexual males express a high degree of desire, especially when it comes to Over The Knee Spankings. However, that figure drops to 12% when males were asked the same question on a survey where the participants were required to give their names. In other words most males like the idea, they just won't admit it.

  

But than we all have our own little sexual preferences or practices that we don't talk about in public or reveal to our closets friends for fear of ridicule. In talking with women who have tried this or their own version of the program, all agreed that spanking was the most powerful maintenance and control tool in the reinforcement of Domestic Discipline. 

  

  

  

  

  
Femdom movies
  
  
©  Femdom